Let us fix our eyes on Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning the shame. Hebrews 12:2 Shame is that terrible, private feeling that something is wrong with us—that we are somehow defective as a person. That we are irreparably damaged. That if anyone really knew what we were like we would be rejected. A part of the experience of shame … [Read more...] about Let Go of Shame
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Let Go of Shame
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning the shame. Hebrews 12:2 Shame is that terrible, private feeling that something is wrong with us—that we are somehow defective as a person. That we are irreparably damaged. That if anyone really knew what we were like we would be rejected. A part of the experience of shame … [Read more...] about Let Go of Shame
Let Go of Shame
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before himendured the cross, scorning the shame.Hebrews 12:2 by Juanita Ryan Shame is that terrible, private feeling that something is wrong with us—that we are somehow defective as a person. That we are irreparably damaged. That if anyone really knew what we were like we would be rejected. … [Read more...] about Let Go of Shame
Beating the Pedestal Syndrome: Help for Pastors Drowning in the Ministry
by Dale O. Wolery and Dale S. Ryan It doesn't seem that complicated. He is drowning, arms flailing. Throw him a rope. If he grabs the rope, pull him out. Simple. Rescue complete. But in real life it seldom works that simply. There are complications. Lots of them. … [Read more...] about Beating the Pedestal Syndrome: Help for Pastors Drowning in the Ministry
Attention Disorders and Addictions
An Interview with Wendy Richardson While attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)—often called simply attention deficit disorder (ADD)—affects only about 5 percent of the general population, studies have shown that 40 to 50 percent of addicts and alcoholics have ADHD. Until about 10 years ago many alcoholics were diagnosed with a condition called post-sobriety syndrome, but recent … [Read more...] about Attention Disorders and Addictions
Shame as a tool of the devil or….how shame stymies spiritual renewal
I don’t know how to keep shame from creeping into a room. Heck, I don’t even know how to keep shame from eating away at my heart. But because I personally have struggled with shame so much I have learned a few techniques that help me manage it, even as I work and wait for healing. Shame is going to make merry anytime we are trying to improve our conscious contact with God or become more decently … [Read more...] about Shame as a tool of the devil or….how shame stymies spiritual renewal
Recovery from Spiritual Anorexia
by Dale Ryan I remember when I first heard about people who were anorexic with respect to food. I was confused by the whole idea. Why would people refuse to eat? Why would people refuse to eat even when they were hungry? Why would people refuse to eat even when they were dying of starvation? But it does happen. Some people reject physical nurture. Sometimes, ironically, they reject it as if … [Read more...] about Recovery from Spiritual Anorexia
Interviews with Three People Who Asked for Help
1. GETTING PAST THE SHAME Sandy Wilson is a well-known author and popular speaker. Her books on shame (Released from Shame) and on family dynamics (ShameFree Parenting) have been helpful to many people in recovery. We interviewed her by phone from her home in Scottdale, AZ. STEPS: Can you tell us something about the first time you got help for yourself? … [Read more...] about Interviews with Three People Who Asked for Help
Theology and Recovery
by Dale Ryan It was a couple of hopeless drunks in Akron, Ohio—not a couple of respectable theologians at a seminary—whom God chose to jump-start the modern recovery movement. I think that was a pretty good decision on God's part. If our problems were just bad theology, then maybe a couple of theologians would have been a better choice. But the problem, for most of us, is not just "in our … [Read more...] about Theology and Recovery
Notes to Our Older Selves: Practice Humility
Dear Older Self, You may find yourself resisting the changes and growing vulnerabilities of aging because of fear. But you might also find yourself resisting because of feelings of shame. Shame is that belief that if people knew you fully, they would reject you. It is that feeling that you are less-than others. Or the sense that your needs make you look weak and unloveable. You know how shame … [Read more...] about Notes to Our Older Selves: Practice Humility