Meditations for Christians Who Try to Be Perfect

Meditation for Monday September 22, 2014

by Joan Webb

Escaping the Roller Coaster

1 John 4:14: "The Father sent his Son to be the Savior of the World."

Some of us hang precariously between two diverse, yet, interrelated self concepts. Counselor Pat Springle calls it the Savior/Judas Complex. He explains how our self-perceptions change in a split second, depending on whether the person we try to help is pleased or upset with us. When we operate in the savior mode, we see ourselves as indispensable. After our efforts to make everything right falter, we feel like a traitor. Others express displeasure, and we feel unappreciated.

This roller coaster existence is a difficult, painful, and exhausting way to live. When we try to be super-human and fail (which we are bound to do no matter how talented, intelligent or spiritual we are) we plunge into despair. The resulting shame we feel numbs us until we try to save someone again. The way to begin changing this yo-yo lifestyle is to admit our humanness and Godπs sovereignty. Only Jesus is qualified to be the Savior of our lives, of our families' lives, and of the world.

Lord, I guess I've tried to be indispensable.
When things and people don't turn out the way
I prayed for, worked for, trusted for, hoped for,
I feel like a failure.
But I'm tired.
I don't want to live this way anymore.
Please help me learn the truth about myself, others, and you.

Copyright Joan C. Webb

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