Common Symptoms of ADD in Adults

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1. We are easily distracted and have difficulty paying attention. We have a tendency to tune out or drift away. For example, we might say:

It is a struggle for me to stay focused or centered. When I least expect it, my brain changes channels, and I respond to the beat of another drum.

Although I can hyperfocus a times, I am more often distracted, and have difficulty staying on target.


At times I feel scattered and confused, like iron shavings attracted by competing magnetic fields.

I set out to clean the kitchen, and often find myself reading a cookbook and deciding to try a new recipe. I eventually finish the kitchen, but it takes me a while.

2. We are impulsive, and we make hasty decisions without considering the consequences. For example, we might say:

I make plans without consulting my family, and then wonder why they don't share my enthusiasm. I jump to conclusions before analyzing all the facts. This creates problems in my personal and business life. I make decisions, commitments, purchases, even major life changes without adequately considering the consequences. I buy things I don't need, and then wonder where all my money went. The worst part is having to justify my actions.

3. We are restless, often hyperactive, and full of nervous energy. For example, we might say:

I usually feel edgy and am always "on the go." My insides are constantly churning. I drum my fingers, twist my hair, pace, shift positions while seated, or leave the room frequently. I'm always looking for a way to release my excess energy. I channel-surf with the TV remote control and find it hard to relax. I am an aggressive driver and love to weave in and out of traffic. My favorite game is looking for "hole shots" and creating my own car race.

4. We have a strong sense of underachievement and always feel that we fail to live up to our potential. For example, we might say:

Whether I am highly accomplished or floundering, I feel incapable of realizing my true potential. I feel like a failure and view success as something that only others achieve. In spite of my accomplishments and a satisfying relationship, I find it difficult to feel happy and fulfilled. In school I was called an underachiever, and that message still affects me today. I tend to be critical of my performance, even if others compliment me for a job well done.

5. We have difficulty in relationships. For example, we might say:

My inability to stay focused in the present moment gives others the impression that I don't care. I get bored easily and have a hard time listening to others. I feel uncomfortable in group activities where social interaction is required. I prefer not to be noticed, because I'm afraid I will say the wrong thing. Sometimes I forget to say hello or goodbye, and others accuse me of being rude.

6. We are procrastinators and have trouble getting started or feeling motivated. For example, we might say:

I put things off until the last minute, but the last-minute adrenaline rush makes the task possible, more interesting, and stimulating. I use deadlines as a way to create panic and chaos. This enables me to hyperfocus, so that I can complete the task on time. I allow piles of work to accumulate because I can't get organized. Only in times of hyperfocus can I actually get something accomplished. I'm inclined to start a project the night before it is due, stay up all night to finish it, and be totally burned out the next day.

7. We cannot tolerate boredom and are always looking for something to do. For example, we might say:

I become bored with activities, conversations and situations that do not interest me. I'm always looking for highly stimulating activities that keep my adrenaline flowing. When I sense boredom approaching, I look for something new and stimulating, rather than accept the idea of being bored. All of my waking moments need to be filled with something to do or something to think about. I cannot risk the possibility of having nothing to do.

8. We have difficulty getting organized. For example, we might say:

I have organizational plans, to-do lists, schedules and resolutions, but still end up with piles on my desk, missed appointments and unanswered phone calls. I have difficulty managing my time effectively. I am often late for meetings, and I lose track of everything from keys to commitments. I often feel out of control and confused because I don't know how to organize my time and activities. My kids do a better job of organizing than I do. I do better when others remind me of appointments and give me direction and structure.

9. We are impatient and have a low tolerance for frustration. For example, we might say:

I become impatient when things don't happen fast enough for me. I have a tendency to withdraw or react in anger. I like to know the bottom line without having to listen to all the details that I consider unimportant. If a line is held up because of coupons, price checks or check cashing, I get impatient and want to lash out at the person creating the delay. I don't like waiting for people or dealing with people's problems.

10. We have mood swings with periods of anxiety, depression or loneliness. For example, we might say:

Periods of depression affect my work, relationships and perception of reality. I sometimes withdraw and isolate myself. A simple setback can bring on feelings of overwhelming hopelessness for me. My moods are unpredictable and can cause me to be either verbally and physically active or quiet and inactive. In the midst of a seemingly endless stream of thoughts, a memory of past failure or loss can submerge my mood instantly.

11. We worry excessively and often have a sense of impending doom. For example, we might say:

Within minutes after awakening or after arriving at work, I seem to search my mind for a topic to worry about. I use worry as a way to stay focused. It's like cutting my finger; all my attention can be in one place. A feeling of impending doom seems to hover over me. I worry constantly about my health. I fear that I'm too fat, too thin, or have some fatal or debilitating disease.

12. We have trouble going through established channels or following proper procedures. For example, we might say:

I am a maverick at heart and do not like to follow rules or go through proper channels to complete a task. I tend to be critical of those in charge, and prefer being free to do things my own way. I feel smothered by procedures, policies, and being directed by others. Being required to conform stifles my productivity. I have a hard time teaching my children to respect authority and follow the rules, because I have a hard time doing those things myself.

13. We have many projects going simultaneously, and have trouble following through with a project or task. For example, we might say:

I assume responsibility for more projects than I can realistically accomplish. I lose interest quickly and have difficulty completing one task before starting a new one. I prefer simple tasks that I can complete before I get an urge to start another one. I am capable of juggling lots of projects or commitments at the same time, but it creates anxiety and pressure for me.

14. We are poor observers of ourselves and are often unaware of our effect on others. For example, we might say:

I have difficulty discerning how others perceive me. I rarely pick up the signals that indicate how well I am being received or if I'm talking too much. I tend to monopolize a conversation without knowing it. My friends tell me I talk too much about myself and don't give them a chance to share their story. I often exaggerate a story to make my point, and don't notice that others don't believe me. At work I think others agree with me. In reality they are confused by my "idea-a-minute" mentality.

15. We tend to say what comes to mind without considering the timing or appropriateness of the remark. For example, we might say:

I blurt out inappropriate comments without considering the possible consequences. Later, when I take time to reflect on what I said, I beat myself up for saying something so stupid. I have a hard time waiting my turn in conversations, and I interrupt others while they are talking. I speak out of turn in meetings. This makes people angry, and I often lose the main point of the meeting or lose the respect of those present. I have a reputation for making one-liner comments that hurt people's feelings.

16. We have a tendency toward addictive behavior, and use mood-altering substances to medicate ourselves. For example, we might say:

I use cocaine to help me focus, alcohol or marijuana to calm me down, and food to comfort me. I take prescription drugs as a way to speed up or slow down, depending on my needs of the moment. I use coffee and cigarettes to keep me energized and to numb my feelings. I use work to give me focus, motivation, and a sense of accomplishment. At times I use it as a way to avoid boredom.

17. We have difficulty in the workplace. We either change jobs frequently or have trouble getting along with our coworkers. For example, we might say:

I become bored with a job and cannot convince myself to stay, even though my financial security is at stake. I assume too much responsibility or take on too many tasks, and then cannot fulfill my obligations. I change my mind frequently and create confusion among my coworkers.

I waste time and resources on insignificant projects and spend time on things that keep my interest but have little value to the overall scheme of things.

18. We have a family history of ADD or other disorders of impulse control or mood. For example, we might say:

I have biological family members with strong evidence of ADD or other disorders of impulse control. I can trace ADD symptoms back several generations. I have family members who are considered high-strung and who have unstable careers. A lot of my close relatives have trouble controlling their tempers. I have biological children with ADD, and I learned of my own ADD through their diagnosis.

Adapted from The Twelve Steps: A Key to Living With Attention Deficit Disorder (Friends in Recovery, RPI Publishing Inc

189 Responses to “Common Symptoms of ADD in Adults”

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  1. Sarah says:

    I was diagnosed at a young age, but i guess I pushed it aside. Feeling that it was something negative. To be hidden, until I completely forgot about it. Until recently.

    I am now 22years old. (23 in two days) and I think im finally ready to take my ADD head on.

    Reading this has shed a light on my situation
    (which I have found year after year to get more difficult). So much so, that I had to write alot if it down. As I was doing this it felt natural, as if it actually WAS my own thought process. I dont think I have felt this much relief about…anything…

    I would like to thank you so much for writing this peice. I needed this more than you could know.

    -Sarah

  2. Emily says:

    Im 17, and about when i was 14 i realized alot of my problems, I recently been stressing out about college and family issues and i felt like everything i was experincing was getting worse. One of my biggest challenges is staying focused. When im at school i cant pay attention to what the teacher is talking about, when they give directions i always have to ask my friends to repeat it to me. When we do notes i copy but my mind will drift off into random things then ill tell myself to focus and ill go off daydreaming about something else. Im really bad with testing I have to read things like five times over or ill find myself drifting off and it close to when i have to turn in my test then ill have to rush. When people talk to me i feel like i cant focus long enough to listen to everything or ill hear them but i cant process it because ill just be off thinking about something. I talk ALOT, i tend to intterupt people because something they said reminds me of something that happened to me and i have to tell them. Ill even talk over people just to say what i need to i even lose track of what of what im saying or ill inturupt my own self with some other story. I often beat myself up after social events because of the stupid things i said, or how i want to keep personaly things to myself but i always end up just telling people. I regret most things i say and i always tend to hurt peoples feelings with what i say i guess becsuse i dont think about what saying i just comes out as i think it. I find myself exagerating and telling every single detail of stories i feel like if i leave something out they wont get it. People always say i act im running on caffine and that im really social but then if one thing goes bad i just as easily become depressed or aintisocial. My mood changes alot if im not in control of things. I have verry little patience to the point where if someone isnt walking fast enough i find myself pushing them out of my way wether a child or mother i cant process how rude it is at the moment. I have bad anger issues to the point where i dont realize what im doing and it can be triggered by the simplest things but then something really bad will happen but i wont even be bothered by it. I tend to wait last minute for everything it helps me get things done i feel motivated when i wait till the last day most of my best work is done then. I always feel like i have to have plans so ill plan stuff back to back but i become overwhelmed and i end up canceling stuff. What i dont get is i always had good grades, im very neat, and im not much of a rule breaker. I only recently noticed these things but they been going on for about four years. I feel like it gets worse. I dont know if maybe its just depression, which runs in the family…. i just know that much of what was said above in the article applies to me. I dont know i always tell myself “tomorrow you will change, tomorrow you will listen to people, you will shutup, you will focus, you will think before you talk” but i never can its like it just what i atomatically turn to. Yet i always come back i punch walls, i hit myself, i feel so frustrated that i AGAIN failed to change and its my fault. I cant even hold a real relationship wether a guy or just a good friend i get bored easily and i find myself pushing them away. I try to pretend or force myself to stay and that im being stupid but i doesnt change anything. Im verry indecisive from what job i want to do to just what color nail polish i will litterly walk around the store with stuff in my hand trying to choose or ill buy both and waste money. Im impulsive i dont think, i never think of the consequences. What i hate ultimatly the most about everything i can never explain why to people why i do this or why i say these stuff. When im in fights i cant even defend myself i feel like i try to explain but my brain jumbles and i start talking fast and gibberish like i cant focus on both things at once. I ABSOLUTLY cant multitask. My friends call me onetrackmind , even when im driving i cant focus on mirrors and the street and lights and cars i get confused and scared. I also tend to lose all my stuff, and i have really bad short term memory to where i cant even remeber what show im watch when it goes on comercial. When i go to sleep it takes hours because im always thinking about stufff. I dont know. I just want to know if its just me and i can change this on my own.

  3. heleb says:

    am tired of living alone am rich in my caring husband back

  4. Jeff says:

    A lot of really good comments about the entire subject of ADD; I’m 56 – and would like to share a few thoughts. Growing up – I shared much of the same feedback as you all shared; squirrel – wired – hyper – obsessing – anxious – on and on. It was only a few years ago that my medical physician gave me a take home test, consisting of questions for me to answer – as well as others who know you. ADD has so many variations – and degrees – etc. My test showed that “yes you definitely have traits of having ADD,” but it’s not like you can understand your situation with a score or otherwise.

    However – I’d like to share that I consider my ADD to be a blessing in disguise. In our society, it’s joked about – and often considered a “negative” personality trait.While it’s been a challenge, I consider it a “gift.” The positives have been a high degree of creativity (our brains process at light speeds faster than others), enthusiasm, passion and a high degree of energy.

    It’s easy for people to make cat calls from the top deck when they don’t understand the state/chemicals/condition in our brain. I take 20 MG of Adderall every day; so what? Most my friends take something for blood pressure, or diabetes, or kidney issues or Lord knows what else. We’re all like them…and at the end of the day – I wouldn’t have my ADD removed from me; it’s part of who I am; I’ll go so far as to mention that God made me this way; and He makes no mistakes.

    Every single person around who has some “burden” to bare; unfortunately, ours may be more visible..but we all have burdens. I’ve learned to embrace my ADD as part of who I am; not trying to get all preachy on you – but it’s taken a long time for me to see myself in a more positive light. We can end up feeling like losers, idiots – etc. My father didn’t help because he always reminded me that “I would be a failure” if this or that.”

    Regardless, God sees each one of us through HIS eyes – sadly – we often assume he’s looking at us with the same negative view that we have of ourselves. He’s not; he looks at each of us and smiles – “Sara or James or Mark or Jennifer, you are 100% perfect just the way you are now! Stop bashing yourself into a pulp. I love the crap out of you – you have no idea how much – and you’re designed perfectly. Try to rest in that knowledge – and steer clear of allowing others’ perceptions to influence how you see yourself.”

    Anyway- thank you, to all of you awesome sounding people out there, for sharing what’s on your heart. Blessings to each of you – Jeff

    • John says:

      Wonderful comments, Jeff. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts and feelings with us. You have no idea how much it means.

  5. Madisen says:

    I’m not exactly sure if I have ADD both my mother and grandfather dealt with depression their whole lives. So they thought…my mother’s anti-depression medication never helped her and when going to the doctor last week the doctor said that my mom appeared to have ADD which is commonly mistaken as depression. At first my mother was mad but when looking into it she realized she fit all the signs. She is very impatient, never listens and is fiddling with her phone when you talk to her, she procrastinates, she constantly worries, she has a hard time focusing on tasks and even when she was in school. My mom thinks I may have ADD as well. I’m not sure because I’ve always been a calm and patient child. A lot of the symptoms fits me except I can focus when others speak and I wouldn’t say i’m too self absorbed but I can be once in a while. I have a hard time making decision and am very indecisive. It’s almost impossible to make big decisions.I get easily distracted in the store and even as a kid I would spend hours debating on what I wanted. I never use my time wisely. It always takes me longer to do tasked than it should take. I’m always switching hobbies and can never stick with one. I never know what future job I want to do. I am 19 and going to college right now and can’t even decide what career to choose. I have always gotten good grades but always procrastinate on homework. Always writing papers the night before. I even finished 3 essays in a days time for my finals. I can do the work but it’s like i can’t get the motivation to start it. I’ll start and than i’ll be thinking about getting on pinterest or something else i’d like to do so I can’t focus. I’m can be late and have bad organization skills. I also have struggles with depression and low self esteem. I have racing thoughts and worry all the time. I replay a event and over analyze things until i am sick. I worry about accidentally leaving the stove or if something i said accidently hurt someone’s feelings, etc I thought I might of had OCD. I have a hard time expressing my emotions and its hurting my relationship. When I go to say how i feel, I draw a blank and can’t focus on what I want to say. I just say I don’t know all the time. I also get either angry or upset when I get criticism. I’m either defensive or self loathing myself because I feel like a failure who can never follow though or keep commitments. I am always breaking up with my boyfriend and can’t decide what I want. I have always been a caring and understanding person and everyone says that I’m a kind. I’ve also always been mature for my age sadly to say even more mature than my own mother. That’s why I’m confused on whether or not I have ADD because I’m not hyper. I don’t know if I have ADD but can anyone else relate to what I’m going through?

    • trivey says:

      Just know that you are not alone. You did a perfect job on describing me to a T. I’ve wanted to go to the dr for the last several years with these problems but I can’t remember anything when I get there. All they want to say is to start exercising. I’m 26 and it just seems to get worse each year. Reading your post made me tear up because I know exactly how you feel.

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