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Self Harm

Self harm is confusing. Always. Why would someone do that? But it is not unintelligible. It makes sense.

At least it makes sense to the person doing the harm. This presentation takes a close look at the experience of self-harm in real time. What does self-abuse look like when it’s fresh, raw, unspeakable? It’s not easy to watch.

You will get a lot more out of my lecture below if you first watch episode three of Season One of Intervention (an A&E Network program). The episode is called “Tamela and Jerrie”.

You can (a) Buy a copy from iTunes for $1.99 (search for Tamela. It is the “Tamela and Jerrie” episode) or (b) Buy the episode for $1.99 from Amazon Instant Video. (Links to an external site.) Please note: this video includes very graphic images of self harm (cutting). There is blood. It is not pretty. If you are a cutter yourself or in a relationship with someone who is engaged in self harm or just someone who for whatever reason should not be watching scenes of someone cutting themselves, you do not need to watch this video even though it is referred to multiple times in the video lecture below. General principle: be kind to yourself.

LECTURE NOTES:

Cultural Context

Myths About Self-Harm

Common characteristics of adolescent self-harm

Common dynamics

What’s the motivation?

How to Be Helpful

Hurtful ThingsHelpful Things
Panic/Shock/Call 911/Allow their anxiety to trigger my anxietyStay calm. Get appropriate help to manage my own anxiety.
Respond/argue about ideas or attempt to control behavior(rewards or punishments).Respond to emotional pain and make room for expression of that pain.
Telling them they shouldn’t do that. Telling them God doesn’t want them to do that.Listen
Tell them to try harder, pray harder etc.Tell them you care about and respect them
Hope for the best. Refer and disengage.Stay engaged, encourage them to seek professional help and to find multiple safe places to talk about their issues

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