Let us fix our eyes on Jesus
the author and perfecter of our faith,
who for the joy set before him
endured the cross, scorning the shame.
Hebrews 12:2
by Juanita Ryan
Shame is that terrible, private feeling that something is wrong with us—that we are somehow defective as a person. That we are irreparably damaged. That if anyone really knew what we were like we would be rejected.
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by Juanita Ryan
All of us long to love and to be loved. We long to both experience and express respect, kindness and acceptance in our relationships.
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As we saw in Part I of this article, defensive relating leaves us in the dark about ourselves and about those closest to us.
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by Dale O. Wolery and Dale S. Ryan
It doesn’t seem that complicated. He is drowning, arms flailing. Throw him a rope. If he grabs the rope, pull him out. Simple. Rescue complete. But in real life it seldom works that simply. There are complications. Lots of them.
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by Dale Ryan
I remember when I first heard about people who were anorexic with respect to food. I was confused by the whole idea. Why would people refuse to eat? Why would people refuse to eat even when they were hungry? Why would people refuse to eat even when they were dying of starvation?
(more…)Sandy Wilson is a well-known author and popular speaker. Her books on shame (Released from Shame) and on family dynamics (ShameFree Parenting) have been helpful to many people in recovery. We interviewed her by phone from her home in Scottdale, AZ.
STEPS: Can you tell us something about the first time you got help for yourself?
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by Juanita R. Ryan
We have all heard stories and seen movies about people who have spent years in prison, hoping and praying for release. Finally, they are paroled. They are set free. They walk outside the prison walls into wide open spaces. No more bars or guards. No one is watching and controlling their every move.
(more…)by Dale & Juanita Ryan
The God of the Bible is a God who saves and heals. The Bible is clear about this: “He will deliver the needy who cry out, he will rescue them from oppression and violence.” (Psalm 72: 12 &14)
(more…)These presentations are part of a twelve part course available on three DVD’s. The entire class can be purchased here. For additional information about Jeff VanVonderen visit his web site at www.jeffvanvonderen.com.
Session 1: Understanding Shame [ 44 min ]
Session 2: Shame and Systems [ 32 min ]
Session 3: Shame Based Family Systems [ 33 min ]
Session 4: When Shame is the Name of the Game [ 32 min ]